The Single Life with Abraham

[chillinjoan]

Well of course Graig, we all do that, least everyone I know on this site does. And YES, YOU ARE ADORABLE !!! Wishing I could pinch those rosy cheeks of your..........., the ones on your face!

[birds of a feather soar]

Don't be Single, Be "SELF". Honestly I am so Adorable I get put out sharing mySELF. lol
At first for me Single Sucked, but after a while, just fell in love with my relationship to Source/Self.
We hang out all the time and finish each other sentences and it is like we know what each other is thinking! lol
Craig

Craig you are so funny. That is the way I feel but I do miss the hugging and what ever comes after that.

[birds of a feather soar]

Well of course Graig, we all do that, least everyone I know on this site does. And YES, YOU ARE ADORABLE !!! Wishing I could pinch those rosy cheeks of your..........., the ones on your face!

like always Joan you top them all!

[Anahid]

Singing, YES YES..no more desperation..and when one doesn't work and things slow down or end (in the early dating process for me) am not obsessed or depressed..I am happy that Abe has my back and that driftwood is view by me as a GIFT...next please..whooooo

[SingingInTheRain]

Don't be Single, Be "SELF". Honestly I am so Adorable I get put out sharing mySELF. lol
At first for me Single Sucked, but after a while, just fell in love with my relationship to Source/Self.
We hang out all the time and finish each other sentences and it is like we know what each other is thinking! lol
Craig

so so awesome. the perfect description. idk where i heard the exact line but i have been romancing myself. literally romancing. every thing i buy for myself i say it as if i'm a lover doting on myself. sweetheart i bought these shoes for you and let me send you to get your hair washed cause you're so wonderful. i take myself out for dinner and lovingly make myself breakfast. i go on dates thru central park. when my flesh and blood lover comes i'm using him for co-creative SEX and fun. sex and fun the perfect relationship for me. i love i just so love that i have the love down myself. i no longer need someone to love me!!! no way ever could someone love me better or more completely than i love myself.

[shewhowhispers]

Always Always remember, YOU ARE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND, if someone else comes along, they are a GIFT.
If that Gift goes away, you are still your own Best Friend................

Wow how very true this is .. May I share my story? I was married to my soul mate .. lover .. best friend and business partner for 24 glorious years .. From the day we met we were instant friends .. we really liked each other and then fell in love. During our time together on this plane .. we danced together energectically and it was an awesome experience for both of us .. we worked together .. played together .. loved together .. raised our kids together .. May 7th 2002, he left the house to run an errand and crossed over .. His car was hit by a speeding motorist who lost control of her car and he never returned home (in the form he left.) I was knocked to my knees by thundering blow .. but I didn't go out. At first I instinctively wanted to go where my best friend was .. I was lost. As the days passed I regained my footing and realized that we both had lived our relationship as individuals with our own spiritual connection who came together and created a "we" for a brief period of time .. never losing ourselves and our personal connection to our higher selves. This knowing was so empowering and enabled me to step back from the events of his death and see and feel his spirit still around me .. pulling for me to find my way back to Vortex. After listening to Abraham (who was introduced to me by a spiritual coach) I learned that if he and I were ever going to communicate again .. I would have to raise my vibrations from their very low and dark place for his was soaring now .. this inspired me to make the effort .. and jumped into finding my way back to the
"Light" with all the focus I could muster ..

My spiritual journey throughout my life has been amazing .. but this leg of the journey has taken me to a deeply introspective awareness and unfolding in regards to human connection. Abraham confirmed my lessons ..when they said our lover is in the Vortex .. as we fall in love with life .. ourselves .. the universe responds through law of attraction .. that our job is to find ways to be happy as we are .. where we are .. who we are .. in the moment .. releasing all resistance. When this happens the object of our desire must appear ... IT IS LAW .. until we reach this place .. it can't appear. As I single woman .. desiring connection in my life ... this is my continuing work ... this is my truth.

[chillinjoan]

sww (your name?)

Lovely story, I felt it down into my core being.
It took two years of hard grief after losing my husband. I gradually started to climb out of my cave into the social world again. Gotta admit, not fun, at all. My children kept me alive.

I realized I had poured my entire life, dreams and happiness into him. Then there was nothing left 'of me', gone, gone into his death. Not good.
I learned, I changed, I read, I searched for my Truth.

I am here and I am the strongest self esteemed person that I 'personally' know.

Was it worth it? That horrendous contrast. Now, I can honestly say..........HELL YEAH !

[susu]

Oh that was lovely shewhowhispers. Beautiful

I am quite new to Abe so I dont have much to say on how Abe has changed my single life. But in the short time I have been reading and here on the board *I* have changed a lot. Abe brings me back to those things I intuitively understood in my teens and this forum is helping too. I am so appreciative of all of you!

[SingingHeart]

I am new to being single (my choice) and really want that connection to self. I think that is the biggest obstacle - besides figuring it all out. I know because I really, really desire it, it will come. I am trying to focus on the now and being happy in the moment. I am meditating, not my best subject and reading lots of Abe stuff. Any other suggestions?

SingingHeart

[christineepiphany]

I am new to being single (my choice) and really want that connection to self. I think that is the biggest obstacle - besides figuring it all out. I know because I really, really desire it, it will come. I am trying to focus on the now and being happy in the moment. I am meditating, not my best subject and reading lots of Abe stuff. Any other suggestions?

SingingHeart

I've found it really helpful to write out my "love story", as if I'm writing out a meeting and falling in love with a man, but instead, I'm writing about meeting myself, my true self, my Inner Being, in a beautiful, magical way, and falling in love and being perfect for "each other", etc.!

I recently did this when I was going to write a future meeting with my Ideal Mate, ("We meet in a beautiful way..."), but accidentally wrote
"I meet in a beautiful way...".

That got me started on writing about me and ME coming together in love, and about the fantastic love that is swirling inside and flowing out, and how wonderful it is, how wonderful I am as part of that love, etc.
I wrote it out, a lovely story of how I met me, and how poetically fabulous I am, and then I ceremoniously burnt it, to free its energy into the universe!

I also find that writing out my good qualities, things I love about me, wonderful ways of seeing myself, is also very good for deepening my own sense of self-love, self-sufficiency, the I-am-more-than-enough-ness of me!

But here's the thing~ I don't say any of the things out loud to others until I really, truly, reallyreally believe them!
As a person with healthy self-esteem to begin with, I've found that if something like that is said before it's believable to you, it becomes something you have to 'defend'. It becomes harder to convince yourself of it, if you say it out loud to others before you really believe it.

I've seen this in action~ I've seen friends brag before they're believing, they try to convince themselves along with everyone else~ and years later, they're no closer to loving themselves than they were when they started.

I feel that it's important to stick with what you KNOW, when it comes to proclaiming self-love in public, and leave the less-known loving statements to take root inside, in the quiet, keeping it to yourself till it's ready to bloom.