The Joy of Letting Go

[ccjones]

This morning, for the first time, I did a 20 min. rampage of appreciation for myself and my acceptance of certain dynamics of family negativity, which felt awesome! About 2 hrs. later, I gained clarity that I've been harboring years of resentment towards my siblings' deep resentment towards my father AND their resentment towards my ability to heal AND a core yearning for them to change. I've now let go of my resentment of their resentment and wanting them to change! Sweet Relief!!!

I'm now in a place of allowing them to BE in their negativity and have stepped into blissful, yummy, comfy confidence of my growth I've let go of a lot of the guilt and shame I'd been harboring for being able grow, and resist my siblings' need to manipulate me down to align with their negativity. Clarity is soooo awesome!!! Allowing is even more awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thank you ABRAHAM

[meralodem]

Thats soooo good to hear, you rock!!!

Last year while meditating I got a message( well it was just a sudden feeling ) that I had to change my views about my family
I did appreciation for my father and I saw the effect in 1 day

Appreciation went wrong when I did it for my mother cause I was appreciating how she sacrifices her life for us and how she has gone through many stuff blah blah blah....( phew, still an ugly taste ) and I did positive aspect about her and in the end I felt fantastic about her

Our relationship dynamics are much more different now in a better way

Thanks for being a reminder

[ccjones]

I had a wonderfully uplifting and inspiring phone conversation with an Abe friend last night which shifted my perspective about expressing appreciation. Plus, she shared numerous stories about how expressing appreciation had manifested wonderful things in her life. Since my post, I've let go of core self-doubt and insecurity, which freed me up to allow me connect with my confidence. Plus, I've given myself permission to allow myself to trust that all the resumes I'm sending out WILL attract the job that's perfectly aligned with my vibe of confidence and empowerment. It feels AWESOME and FREEING

This weekend, I intend to do rampages of appreciation for my whole family, to release my self-pity for having being born into an environment full of such contrast.

Thanks for the reply

[cakeonaplate]

you are an inspiration!

One day, I'll feel in the vacinity of appreciation for my contrast-providing parents. Its an important subject, and I intend to go downstream from where I am about this.

[ccjones]

Thanks for the reply I understand your challenge to appreciate your contrast-providing parents. For years, I've been stuck in negativity projected onto me for expressing any appreciation for my contrast-providing father to my older sister (12 yrs older), who is locked in intense negativity towards him. After listening to my Abe friend share the results of pushing herself to do an appreciation list about her ex-husband, I felt inspired to do the same about my father. When I asked her how she did it, she reminded me that since every 17 sec the loa brings another positive thought, as long as she remained focused for at least 68 seconds, the positive thoughts automatically came faster and faster, until her point of attraction towards him changed. As a result, the dynamics between them shifted immediately and wonderful things manifested for everyone.

Today, I have the intention of pushing past my little sister guilt/shame about wanting to appreciate my father and do an appreciation list about him. I intend to step into my right to take adult ownership of my choice to respect him and appreciate his weaknesses, knowing that he did the best he could.

I realize that as long as I hold onto resentments that I've taken on codependently from my sister's negative projections, which aren't how I want to view him, I'll continue to attract men, like my father, into my life to fear and resent when I feel victimized by them. It's time to push myself to end my part of this dynamic of remaining feeling vulnerable to being victimized, and do the work to raise my vibration into my adult self.

I LOVE knowing that appreciation is SUCH a powerfully effective way to dissolve resentments AND bring myself UP into my empowerment! Thank you Abraham

[ccjones]

I sat down to do an appreciation list on my father and was surprised when I came up against a wall b/c of my awareness of how hurtful he has been. Then it hit me! I shifted my focus from being in appreciation, to my wanting to allow myself to respect the multitude of his codependent and narcissitic weaknesses. My sister's resentment is due to her having experienced his negativity first-hand, which I was apparently protected from. Since I didn't experience his negativity to the same degree, yet can't appreciate his capability to be so hurtful, I want to and can bring myself to a place of being able to respect his weaknesses. I want to respect the fear he's lived in througout his life (he's now 96 y/o) of exposing his vulnerabilities and weakness.