Wanting relationship, can't relieve myself of impatience or disappointment.

[MiriamAdi]

I just met a friend who I think is interested in me as more than a friend.

If I don't feel butterflies for this guy on the first meeting, does that mean that I'm not in the vortex?


Then again do I have to be perfectly in the vortex to attract a suitable guy?


If not, because I have recently been more in the vortex about myself than usual about certain things, does that mean that he can be suitable but I still won't have butterflies?


I'm really impatient, but doesn't Abe say that's a good thing? I can't seem to get over this impatience, no matter what I do it always comes back.


I feel like it's really upstream and it's preventing my perfect mate from coming to me.


When I visualise this guy I can feel how I would want to feel meeting my perfect mate, and I don't feel that way with this guy.


I'm sick of pushing what I don't feel and I'm sick of being so afraid of disappointment that I will try and convince myself that I like the first guy that comes my way.


If the vortex has sent me my perfect mate will I see it straight away or will feelings not necessarily develop immediately?


Please answer!

[zenjenn]

Perfect mate is what's holding you. Rather than appreciating every relationship that comes to expand you, your holding out and away in disaoointment rather than enjoying a possible relationship that would lead you to an improved one or be the one you wanted.


A woman asked abe about this once and they commented about her idea of dating. When she said , what do I do if I get asked out for a date by someone I'm not sure is the one. And they said something to the effect of: I like to eat. Iow, why wouldn't you simply enjoy the people places and things you manifest along the path to finding someone you would like to focus more time upon. I found that to be great advice.

[Hearts of Summer]

Also check out the current thread about soul mates. Lots of wisdom on this topic there, too.

[Kaz]

I've been friends with a guy for a long time. One day I woke up and began to see him differently. It happens.

[Brandy LeAnn]

I say just go with the flow... so you don't feel swept off your feet? I agree with ZenJenn... just enjoy some of the friend things... you may come to find he is the friend that you never want to be apart from, or you may find you have great experience just being friends... just go with the flow!