Why does it bother us so much when people co-create with others?

[Soul Sister 2010]

I love that, Sparrow Thank you!

[sparrow]

See other people dating as driftwood.

If this person is dating someone then it is possible to move on from this situation. It is possible to find happiness again. It is possible to get relief.

I always use other people marrying or dating as driftwood. I use to watch wifeswap as driftwood, as proof there was someone for everyone. If all THESE people found their match, so will I!

just tell a different story. You can do it!

[chillinjoan]

YOU are on this journey with SELF, others are in your side-car with a different view from where they are sitting.
Nobody can be your ALL except YOU.
You either have an unhealthy jealous issue OR
You are wanting more in the relationship than he is willing to give. I mean, where is he to draw the line...and are you go keep moving that line so he is always trying to please you more and more and more?
never work.

Listen to SHL, this man is wise beyond his years....hear that Barry? We got a lot of years to get even wiser.

[Soul Sister 2010]

Yes, that makes sense. I just need to get away from the specifics of my situation. You see, watching someone that I love go to someone else doesn't make me think, "Gee, that means there's someone great for me!" It makes me think, why was I not enough? Why am I not important? That is what I'm working on.

[Soul Sister 2010]

Joan, I get that. The thing is that yes, perhaps I have a jealousy deal because I miss the attention of another and when someone else gets it. The latter isn't my issue. I don't need people to stand on their heads to make me happy. I was fully willing to work on this from the standpoint of working on my own alignment. It was my partner that said, "You aren't making me happy so I'm going to run."

And I think my thoughts immediately go to "I'm not valuable to her or enough for her" and that makes it troubling. I know it's troubling because my IB does not agree with these statements.