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    Thought: "Sometimes I really have the feeling of things really going forward, being really into thinking thoughts that feel better, and I really can feel the progress even in hairy topics and I can see light at the end of the tunnel (of negativity) and then often not even one day after that it is like I don't be able to do anything productive and don't come into a place of feeling anything good or being able to think my way back into better feelings for the whole day. I hate this feeling of total powerlessness, that feels so random and out of (my) control and like 3 steps back when I made 1 step forward."
    # I just can't believe that I come to this emotional place again and again.
    # I really don't understand why others have a so much easier time with this.
    # It's like someone handing me 100000 €s everyday and I burn it and get it again the next day and burn it again.
    # I know this is all logically explainable by the LOA, it has to be like it is right now.
    # I am sick and tired of this up and down and of this feeling so shitty most of the time.
    # At least I feel the heavy emotional contrast to the positive emotions (created by ME) this morning and the heavy negative drop down. So I was in a good feeling place and shifted hard OotV. That's alright.
    # I can make this negative shift a little less negative maybe.
    # I am so overwhelmed by all those things ans different topics with all the different emotions that I don't see a point where to start and that brings me to the point where I drift off the road. That is good to know.
    # I can relax my thoughts of overwhelming and then I will automatically see clearer I think.
    # Before I drift off so heavily I often think that I am soooo close to really good emotions and that I am not so far away from a more smooth feeling experience.

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    Some serious Data Collecting today.

    When A (a women I flirt heavily with at my job place) started talking about her sexuallife I got really jealous, because with all the details ("fromyesterday evening") it hit me right into the stomach (=momentum).

    1. That is really pissing me off, that I think about having a "thing" with her and she starts telling me how abundant her sexual life is and that she had right yesterday someone, ergs.
    2. I should tell her something to make her heavily envy, so she can feel how that feels to me.
    3. That I feel like this must mean my IB is not joining me in this position.
    4. That she is talking this TO ME and that we flirt heavily must mean that I have some thoughts here that ARE aligned.
    5. And only that I don't have this doesn't make me a worse person. I know in this topic there is a lot of "rara", a lot of faking and pretending and confusing in society.
    6. I know that I want this life, too. But right now I have to accept that it's not, but that I can feel better anyway.
    7. That I felt that way means that my IB expanded with all the new things I want. My IB is abundant with this life and it's "calling" me to this position, because there it feels better.
    8. I know she didn't have done this to "hurt" me (only I can), it looks like she is seeing in me some person who can relate to this topic. We have a really heavy flirting vibe together. I haven't seen this so heavily there in this theatre-place.
    9. I like seeing that she is enjoying herself without those things.
    10. I like that it's not nessecary to have those things, and that it's only a thought (or a conglomerate of thoughts) that make her feel this way (because when she is doing something else, she doesn't have this at this time and place). I can do this, too. I can feel better without all of this physical evidences.
    11. I like that I have this interaction(s) with here whenever we met.
    12. I like seeing how this interactions deepened.
    13. When I can do this with here, I can do this with other women, too.
    14. I don't have to find out, with which women, that is not my job.

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    As you might know I have those staringinto the wall moments when I don't know what to do and I just thinkabout sleeping but now I just work on those thoughts like following,because they are there and they won't improve until I WORK on them.That thought starts from a action-journey place, I can see that. Itake now MUCH MUCH more time to really figure out thoughts that dofeel better.


    Thought: I really would like to ask A.If I could come over to her place after the evening rehearsal to havea drink or something... but I just don't have the courage to do that.I feel powerless. If I am not "in the flow" I would neverask her that, although I bet to eat my shoe that she (or other women)WANT ME to do that (to ask them) because deep down I know that thisis not a big deal.

    1. When I have those moments it's like I will never be able to do that and that freaks me out to some degree.
    2. I can see, that I would be able to ask a good friend to meet or to go to the cinema or whatever but not with women and "this" intention I have, altough the women is sharing this intention I BET.
    3. My job is NOT to find out how to ask her out or how to find a way to overcome the fear of asking her.
    4. My job is to FEEL BETTER. Nothing more, nothing less.
    5. <here it starts getting slooow with thoughts>
    6. <5 minutes forwards>
    7. I see that I THINK that I miss an awesome opportunity (because that seems so possible here if I would have the guts just to ask her) to share some private time there and that I think that I will regret this when I don't be able to do this but the fact is I CAN'T do it so the only thing here I can really do it to accept that I can't do it RIGHT NOW. I learned with Abraham that every manifestation is only temporary and that this situation can disappear, even if I lived this manifestation for years or even decades.
    8. I remember the stick analogy WB told about in nearly all of this posts (heh) and that I can find moments, where this was possible in the past. I see, that with the attractive dancer some years ago she was really angry after I asked her for her number that I haven't called her, when I met her at some public event some weeks later. And I see, that with V. or S. We made appointments exclusively for this single intention. I remember, that not only do they have asked for that appointment, but I have done that, too, so I HAVE asked women in the past for those kind of dates. And the dates happened. And now I remember B., too. So this is not some impossible thing here, this IS possible for me and I HAVE done it in the past. Without further help I done that for myself.
    9. So maybe I can relax a bit in the fact that I DIT it multiple times, even by myself over years. So, that is totally a thing that can happen in the future again. And my job is not to find out HOW, but only to feel better, and I have much more power over my thoughts and feelings than over an outcome or what happened outside of me.


    I can say if this "wall" will tumble down (and it will) this thread will go into the Hall Of Fame I am sure (oryou will have banned me until then heh)

    EDIT: The formatting is a bit messed up; I copied that from my text editor and there seem to appear white spaces. Hope you can read it, anyway.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Klassik View Post
    ...(oryou will have banned me until then heh)
    Contrary to what some people think: we only ban people for violating the few basic principles upon which this Forum is based. Those principles are spelled out in David’s Welcome letter to all new members as well as in our Common Questions thread.

    Don't cross those few principles and Policies and you have nothing to fear.

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    Ok! This was more a kind of fun thing here (you know that).

    I've been to the new dancing rehearsals yesterday for the new piece (this, where I bypassed auditions). Didn't felt good. Really was happy when it was over. Those feelings of "I wouldn't be sad if the next rehearsals were canceled.."
    So, I will try some kind of "New Story".

    Thoughts: "Ugh, they are all so free and interact in the dance with each other and are playful and I am so left out. They have no problem expressing themselves (to each other). I don't like to not happily connect with them, that decreased my experience so much. That feels really bad."

    New Story: "The rehearsals weren't that bad. I mean, I felt better than years ago on another piece of the same kind. Now, the people I am with are more charismatic for me. They express and interact together much more, but I interact with them, too. Not that much, not that confident, but I do to some degree. It's not like it's totally off, it's definitely potential there, people from outside would see, that I am interacting. I can't "beam" myself to a different personality where I have all the freedoms to do what I want there so I have to accept where I am. I am not the super confident guy who is dancing there, too. I am not where they "are". I am where I am it's feels better not to push against it and to crave me out of the situation or being different, so that this experience will be different. It is how it is. They have all totally different backgrounds, totally different lifes behind them, that made them, who they are now. I have a totally different education at home, and I can't wipe this off like "woooop!". It is there and I have to accept this, because I even see that wanting it to be different doesn't feel good at all.

    I should concentrate on the things that work well here. I can do what they ask me to do, I got into this piece with ease, I have this big opportunity to do this with the house actors and I know some people would do whatever to be part of this. The dancers beside me are all confident, all - so far I know them - have a great personality, and the "James Bond" guy there who is the perfect example of someone who is in alignment with nearly everything (not all) he does is someone I could maybe learn something off. Sure, I see people who are a perfect example of negative attraction, who focus on what is not working and get more of it. It's so obvious for me, they are talking this and getting this but they continue to do this.

    And the money aspect: I earn there with each rehearsal more than with any other rehearsal in 6 years of being in that theatre. I have the highest rate now. I earn so much there that I will pay my rent with things I really love and what I don't consider "work". Taht is so great and I AM living it right now. This month I will earn rent, electricity, internet and food, and maybe, who knows, soon I will earn extras from there? Wouldn't that be nice? I have seen a guy there who has NO university degree (what you normally need) and he is now doing the job he is doing. Maybe I could get there, too? Of course he is now an example that if you are in alignment with things, those things will show up in your reality and you will live them, no matter if the peanuts say that this isn't possible. It is possible, and he proves it. I PROVE it, that when I want something, I can get it. There are soooo many actors and singers and dancers who have degrees but NEVER do their thing, never get on the stage, earn never the money to life and I have NOHTING and earn money enough to life from it more and more. And it just worked out, and yesterday I got a call for another role...
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    I want to create a story so that I can "forget" for some time the women and social topic, because I really don't come forward there, and at the same time I am "manifesting" all those things pleny in my life everyday where I feel negative emotion. So for that reason, the story:

    "I am stuck in this topic. Every attempt to mine some relief here is ending up nowhere. I don't think that I am not able to do that, I am sure I am. Right now, it just doesn't work. It is better for me to take a step backwards here and focus on other things for a while, like my money and career vibe. I think that I have less resistance her, less confusion, so that I will be able to find more relief here, and then I will be able to use that knowledge - because the work is everywhere the same - to work on the social and women topic. Again, I am sure that I have the possibilitys to change my vibe here, but right now it is just frustrating to hit the wall day after day. I will experience negative emotion here, I am sure of that, and I won't try to make anything happen here. I will just "let it happen". And I know, that in the end, that this approach will bring me faster to where I want then this struggle I am going through. And, I have evidence, that I improved my money vibe, and how things flow to me this way, and I can see how that is a result of the LoA and not some accident. And when I focus on this topic more, I will feel more calm during the day and just do something, instead of sitting around with nothing doing. Or, when I do something, that I feel better and eventually good doing it."

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    I wanted to post sth. totally different.

    I have a question, and I think that I know the answer already: I went to the takeaway today and like always seen lots of women. My question: My work with these teachings is NEVER to think about "How can I approach her? How can I overcome my fear of going to her or starting a conversation..?" when I know that I can't do it, so my work is always: "How can I FEEL better?" Like, "I DON'T have to think about ways to make it happen." Like I don't have to EVER EVER think about "how to do this or that.." and that this will work out ITSELF 100 % of the time.

    "I don't know how to approach women in 100 years." -> don't have to think about the actual DOING ever.
    "I don't know how to be relaxed to come into communication with the actors (or even befriend them)." -> not my job to think about that actual action.
    "I don't know how to ever make some real friend connections with most of my "colleagues" so we meet like natural AFTER work or something." -> not my job.
    "I want to ask her out for a coffee or talk with them for fun but how do I do it...? ergh." -> Not my work/job.

    My job is to ONLY feel better.

    When I was getting the food from the takeaway, I really got this question. Like: "OMG, I was here last year and that cutie behind the bar is still working there.. and I am still not able to talk to go over and talk to her.." and I thought: "When I will have to figure this out the action way that will be so hard and I never could do that in the past so I hope this isn't even my job."

    Like I said, I think I know the answer but I don't believe it proably. I don't want to "fix" those things, I want to know better how to work on those things thoughtwise.

    I included in my daily "work" the meditation. First, I started with 10 minutes (I've done that years ago up to 30 minutes and that was unbelievable sometimes) and now I will get there step by step to 15 or 20 minutes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Klassik View Post
    I have a question,...
    Did you notice that you didn't actually ask a question? IOW, it seems that you received your answer as you were writing your post. Good for you.

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    I didn't noticed that at all. Lel

    OAAAAAHHHH this don't knowing what to do, that not being in the attitude of doing the things I could do that feels so terrible and depressing and makes me tired. I am just clicking around and sleeping. ergh....

    • I don't like it to sit on my ass and doing nothing, not when I want my life to be improved, it feels like I am wasting my life and I am so young and could do so much, but I don't. (same)
    • I know there a billions of people on this planet doing in the eyes of billions things of no importance, and earning like no money from it, too. I know that I am in a much better position. (same)
    • I know that some of those people, who are really doing "redundant" work, are more happy than I am. (slighty better)
    • That shows me, that it is not about what do to, but how to do it. (better)
    • I know that it's all about my mood, my emotions, and that this are the most important aspects of my life and the life of everyone and that it's not so important what we do, as long we feel good while doing it. (slighty better)
    • It's not about figuring out what to do. (slightly better)
    • It's about feeling better, only. (slighty better)
    • I still don't know what to do. (worse)
    • But that it not my work, it's just to find another and another and another BFT. (slight better)
    • I am having a hard time finding thoughts that feel better even if I try and I am spending most of my time wasting my time poking in the fog of BFTs. (worse)
    • I can see how other people, for example on the Forum, having a easy time finding BFTs, fast, and that it's not because they are "special", but because they practised that. (same)
    • So, with that, I can get there, too, and find BFT everytime I want, what means, that I can feel better everytime I want, and because I am not able to do this 95 % of the time right now, that would be feel so much better in the bigger picture when I will be able to do this. That would feel like water in the hot desert and always knowing where the next waterplace is to be found. (better)
    • I dedicated a lot of time in the past practising that with nearly zero positive results. That feels discouraging. (worse)
    • But I felt better from time to time, so sometimes I DO something right to feel better. (better)
    • I just have to find out, why it works out then. (same)
    • I feel better NOW, I managed to feel better with some of these thoughts here. (better)
    • It took me a nap, a meditation and a sitting of BFTS, but I feel a little bit better. (better)
    • I did that by myself. (better)
    • The acutal process of finding BFTs wasn't so long, maybe 20 minutes, and now I really feel better. (better)
    • I am sure when I concentrate in the future when I search for BFTs I can find them, again. (same)
    • There are so many topics I "touch" everyday that this feels really overwhelming to think about doing this process again and again, I don't have enough time to work on all of those. (worse)
    • I can decide to step back and don't have to make myself so much pressure. (same)
    • Some people are old and don't have the time even if they would to achieve what they want, I am young and can do that and many people on the Forum (and many that are not on the Forum) were able to improve their lifes first emotionally then "manifestationally" in a pretty short time, so it's easier with time and totally doable for me, too, and that I found this relief with this process here now makes me feel HOPEFUL.


    And out.

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    I will figure this out I will figure this out I will figure this out.

    This is so depressing to be always left out with the people I want to be with. Compared to them I am shy and insecure, that they don't even take me seriously. I am so heavily out of alignment when I met those people and I always count the minutes the torment is over. Sometimes I just feel like air for them, altough we work together "hand in hand".

    • I just don't know what to do about it, it's so overwhelming.
    • I know it's ONLY the result of my thinking, NOTHING MORE.
    • I can think different, better feeling thoughts instead, so that I feel better.
    • I know, that my experience is a result of my emotions, and my emotions are the results of my thoughts.
    • I DON'T have to figure out how to solve this problem. That is NEVER my job.
    • I don't feel so out of alignment like that around all people, but with those people I really feel worthless so much.
    • So it's not with all people, but with most people, but NOT with all people.
    • I know I won't sooth this big nasty thought all at once, because I am thinking this thought for a very long time and this gained a lot of momentum, so I can accept that and make myself more comfortable and don't make myself so much pressure, because I KNOW that it is a step-by-step thing.
    • With A. for example I am often comfortable and confident, or with R. and G. or S. I can talk comfortable.
    • I think, that I make their life and opinion MORE important than MY Well Being.
    • I know, that my Well Being is way more important than their thoughts, because I am not thinking their thoughts, I am thinkink my thoughts and I feel MY emotions.
    • Indeed, that is my job, to take care of MY Well Being, of MY alignment.

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