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Thread: Is it necessary to incorporate the 68 second rule when Im doing the Emo-scale process

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    Quote Originally Posted by y4nix View Post
    The bad thing is that I don't have anything going on in my life but that's also a good thing.
    Then talk more about how it's a good thing rather than your current, temporary predominant focus on how it's a bad thing. You can do that.

    And you don't have "anything," really? Is your heart still pumping? (If not, get off the Forum and to an emergency room right now.) That's a really big something. You really want that. You also want your kidneys, liver and intestines to filter the waste out of your body. They're doing that. You're not being hurtled off into space? Gravity's still working for you, is it not? That's good because that means that gravity is holding the atmosphere to this planet so that you can breathe. Hey, has anyone charged you yet for all that air you've been breathing? Yeah, I didn't think so. So you have all that free breathable air that no one's charged you for and that's always available for you. That's another pretty big something.

    And you need all these something's in order to get over to where you want to be. These are prerequisites for you getting over there to where you want to be. It sounds to me like you have a habit of focus on the Unwanted/Lack-or-Absence end of all your sticks so that you've forgotten to look at the Wanted/Having-of-It ends of those sticks. A lot of people do that. But that doesn't mean you can't start looking around in a more effective way for yourself and recognizing the Wanted/Having-of-It ends of some of your sticks.

    Quote Originally Posted by y4nix View Post
    I'm just on one subject - trying to improve my life.
    So, if you're focusing "just on one subject," does that mean that every other subject could feel BETTER than that one subject. I mean, one subject doesn't sound like the "nothing" that you were talking about.

    Quote Originally Posted by y4nix View Post
    So every time I focus too long on anything unwanted, I start feeling bad...
    As you want it to!

    You want your guidance system to be working. You want to know every time when you're not focusing towards what you want. I know you're counting this as an Unwanted/Lack-or-Absence but this really is the Wanted/Having-of-It end of this stick.

    Quote Originally Posted by y4nix View Post
    ...and then even worse because I criticize myself for feeling bad.
    Well, you're the one who's doing the criticizing, which means you have all the control over whether you criticize or not.

    Given what we've been talking about, it's not likely that you'll simply stop your habit of criticizing. But you can notice that you don't feel BETTER when you criticize yourself. You can notice that you feel worse when you criticize yourself. You can use that worse feeling to remind yourself that you're doing something that you no longer prefer. You can do that.

    Quote Originally Posted by y4nix View Post
    But I've made some great progress in the last couple of days. Three major negative thoughts are cleared up and you've helped me understand a couple of things that I have been seeking answers to for a long time. Thank you.
    I'm glad you're finding something you want in this. That's you focusing on your Wanted/Having-of-It end of this stick. Good for you.

    Quote Originally Posted by y4nix View Post
    So now every time I feel myself sliding back, I just remind myself that it's ok, no one ever feels good all the time, and I've made some good gains and the fact, that I don't have to feel good right now but just a little better, is also an big relief.

    Is that enough for now? I'm definitely feeling like this may be the path.
    Your reminder is nice. Is it a reminder that you've come up with in the last hour or so? (Because this thread has a very different tone than your reminder.) Then it's really too soon for you to be taking score of it. If you are taking score of it, I would suggest you to use the relief that you feel​ as your measure of its enough-ness.

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    OK, BOOM!

    The bottom tier, for me, is blaming the negative emotion. So when I make peace with it, I find myself in a slightly better feeling but confused state.

    Then I say, all this must have happened for a reason. I believe that it was my choice to come here, to play this game, for fun of the challenge. It's ok if I don't know when or how, that was part of the plan. I believe that the universe has it all planned out for me. I can hang in there for now.

    Now I admire the sky and the sun and the abundance of air. At first, kinda corny and boring but after a little bit I was really amazed that there really is an unending supply of air. lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by y4nix View Post
    The bottom tier, for me, is blaming the negative emotion. So when I make peace with it, I find myself in a slightly better feeling but confused state.
    "Confused" in what way?

    Because this suggests a sort of analysis (which isn't part of these teachings) when what you want to be doing is--say it with me--feeling BETTER. IOW, it sounds like you're more interested in figuring stuff out than you are in tending to your vibrational alignment.

    Quote Originally Posted by y4nix View Post
    Then I say, all this must have happened for a reason.
    It did. It happened because you didn't (for whatever your good reasons) close your vibrational gap in time.

    But even then, there's still a Wanted/Having-of-It end of this stick. After all, what you're talking about is a Step 1 moment. The way you're talking about it, your "all this" sounds sort of extreme but it's still a Step 1 moment, where you're adding to your Vortex. I want to say "that's more for you to catch up with" but that might just inflame how you haven't yet caught up with your earlier expansion that you're wanting.

    Quote Originally Posted by y4nix View Post
    I believe that it was my choice to come here, to play this game, for fun of the challenge. It's ok if I don't know when or how, that was part of the plan. I believe that the universe has it all planned out for me. I can hang in there for now.
    So, pop quiz time: How does this story feel? Because, given what you'd posted here and given how you're saying it, I wonder how much of this you truly believe and how much of this is what you think you should say. Now, frankly, it doesn't matter to me either way. It's not any of my business. But it is really your business because there's a big difference in vibration between believing this and saying this out of a sort of lip service.

    I would guess, if you're really honest with yourself, that this story sort of inflames the crappy feelings you have as you look at all the conditions you don't like around you, because this story sort of puts the blame on you for all the conditions you don't like around you. We both know that it's not ok if you don't know when or how. You've told us that--what?--a few short hours ago. That's why you're talking about "hang in there for now." This isn't Making Peace with Where You Are. This is tolerating and trying to choke down a crappy dish that's being fed to you.

    As I told you before, I can't tell you for sure what you truly are feeling. But this seems to me that you're trying to do the same jump to "positive" or to "good" that I've been trying to talk you out of. Once again, I invite you to bring a small piece (something easy, without much momentum, is best) to this thread so that you can "work" on it more productively.

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    Now I admire the sky and the sun and the abundance of air.
    I have to question you on this because, until I called you on it, you were pretty adamant that you had "nothing" to feel better about. When you "admire" something, you feel better about it. That's what "admire" means.

    Here's an important thing to keep in mind. You can fool me and the rest of the world with the words you say. You might even be able to fool yourself. But you will never, ever fool the LoA because the LoA doesn't care whether you call it "admire" or "tomato." The LoA always matches your vibration which, based upon how you've been posting here, is more like: "My life sucks...all over the place. I can't wait for the conditions to change so that I can get over there and no longer have to be here in this sucky. Yeah, the sun shines here but that just gives more light with which I can see all the suck that this place has to offer. But I'll play your little silly game and say that I 'admire' when I really mean 'dismiss'."

    That's why you're talking about "hang in there for now."

    So, you are still in some sort of way blaming yourself for having negative emotion and trying to paste a HFS over your "wrong-doing." But the thing is you're NOT doing anything wrong by having negative emotion. That's something that's working out for you. Just like the bumps between the lanes that Esther loves so much, you want to know when you're veering out of your lane towards the edge of the road. You want to know this before you have 2 tires off the road.

    Now the important thing for you to learn is what to effectively do when you get your 2 tires off the road.

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    My life sucks. I'm not happy where I am. I know it's supposed to be better but I don't know what I need to do.


    I'm unsatisfied, stuck, perturbed.


    This feeling is my IB communicating with me, telling me that it does not agree. It knows that all is well and that I'm ok - now and always.


    That's it. I did it. I turned it around. This is all I needed to do.

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    Great. Good for you.

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