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    Decluttering

    I struggle with clutter...in my home, my paperwork and my finances. I can’t seem to get a handle on it. Is there anyone here who has struggled with clutter and has overcome it using the Abraham teachings? If so, can you tell me how you did it/are doing it, please?

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    Find the "Clearing Clutter for Clarity" Process, number 14 in AAIIG (which is why we keep repeating that it reeeeeeeeeeeeeally helps to read the books). They invented it for just this issue.
    http://www.abeforum.com/showthread.php?24564-Process-14-)-Clearing-Clutter-for-Clarity

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    In addition to HitC's reply, can you see how you're jumping into action without attending to your own resistance (the resistance about your clutter, about your organization, about how it keeps happening, about how you can or can't get a handle on this and other things, about..., about..., about...)? So you're trying to overcome your own resistance through action and you're seeing the difficulty in that, which is why you're describing that as "struggle." That's what "struggle" is: applying action to make up for our lack of vibrational alignment.

    So, how can you soothe your thoughts about your "clutter"? What thoughts can you tell yourself about your clutter which still seem true to you yet which feel better?

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    There is such a cultural clutter battle and shaming thing going on these days. Clutter BAD!!

    I agree with WB in that it's showing up in your wording.

    What if it wasn't bad? What if it's just stuff? Esther has warehouses of stuff!!

    I'd take a look at the Shame aspect for sure. Who says stuff and disorganization are problems?? You are Source energy!!! So what you've got some stuff???

    Organization really isn't a problem when you've got alignment. POE posted just this morning that Source reminded her of an appointment that she had forgotten about. I was digging through some important papers this weekend, not finding what I needed and I was fussing at myself for not having filed them properly sooner. I walked away and said I'd come back to it in a better flow. Well I walked right back and decided to throw some scrap away and put my hand directly on what I needed -- which I swear wasn't there 30 seconds ago!!!

    In other words, being tidy and organized in order to achieve something are carts before the horse. You can still enjoy your life and get what you need done without perfection.

    And it feels good to feel CLEAR and EASE and IN THE FLOW and PRODUCTIVE.

    One more example, I was asked to describe what my life might look like if I had all the money I wanted. Other people around me said they'd have cleaner houses. I assumed I'd say that too, but then it dawned on me -- sometimes!! Sometimes I'd have a clean, magazine spread perfect house. And sometimes I'd be busy with a project and have stuff all over and THATS PERFECTLY OK with ME!! A perfectly clean house is someone's else's dream. I love a clean house and I also want to go with my own flow, whatever that is.

    So to answer your question-- I quit having a struggle with clutter and disorganization when I quit calling it a struggle and a problem.

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    Yes, like the others have said, make it about "decluttering" your emotional gap.

    Relax, and be easier on yourself, and most importantly SOOTHE yourself.
    Soothe Yourself about it.
    Go general,
    Reach for downstream thoughts that bring you EMOTIONAL relief.


    Personally, I have done the "clearing clutter" process a handful of times, and found it very helpful.
    It is quick, relatively to do, and the results feel good.

    Only at the weekend I put some things that were in a pile "to do" in my "to do corner"! fun....into a box in the cubboard, out of sight, and it feels so much better, more relaxing to me. Why look at the pile, when it can be out of sight, and feel more relaxing!

    I am very organised when it comes to finances, I must have put that into my vortex after being like yourself, unorganised. And wanting to be efficient with my time. I enjoy how quickly I can find things, and know exactly where things are, and what is coming in and going out.
    I find that using ring binders work best for me. I use three ring binders, and fill them with those plastic wallets.
    One, ring binder for bank related paperwork, Another one for bills, using a wallet for each of the monthly bills. And one for longer term things such as warranties, etc.

    The financial process can be very helpful for getting into an organised mentality with regard to our finances....and it is sort of fun to do too!

    For me, I have made it a fun thing to do.

    Maybe what would help would be to FOCUS on the FEELING that you would like to FEEL, rather than the outer affect. How does it FEEL to have a clutter free space....
    Gradually begin to practice that FEELING more often, and then, watch for your INSPIRATION to come.

    Create the FEELING first.
    ENJOY the conjuring of the FEELING.
    Knowing that all manifestations come from the vibration that precedes them.
    Create the vibration OF feeling clutter free, and OF enjoying your relaxing space, OF feeling EASE in your home, and in your finances.

    It will be a steady unfolding process of EMOTIONAL relief, and feelings.....that will then....lead you to the inspiration to act.

    When we act from feeling overwhelmed, we just create more overwhelment!

    Create the emotion FIRST, and then you will ENJOY BOTH the creation and the unfolding of the path.


    BE EASY about it.

    There is a path, and your inner being KNOWS the way.
    You simply have to gently and gradually close your GAP between you and YOU.
    And you do that emotionally, little by little, until there you are!

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    Oh yes I just reread your post, and was inspired to re post this;


    The only thing you "need", as you wrote, to get a HANDLE on.....is yes.....your vibration.

    Get a handle on your emotions.


    Step one, and three are DONE!
    Your inner being is there already enjoying your space, your finances!
    You just need to close THAT gap.

    And when you do, you will be INSPIRED to the perfect path for YOU.

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    ohh wow, perfect answers!

    And here are some quotes...


    Delegate it to the manager (the nonphysical helpers).
    You have this really good staff that will take care
    of everything for you. You just have to delegate it —
    and trust it.




    ---Abraham

    Excerpted from: St. Louis, MO on July 18, 2000




    "How ya doin?-"
    -"Living happily ever after."
    -"What´s wrong with you???"
    -"Absolutely NOTHING!!!"

    (...) We want you to release all guilt
    about the glorious life that you´r living.

    Cancun 2014, from the wonderful clip
    Abraham Hicks. Don't go looking for contrast!




    Disorganization and Procrastination.


    We wanna give you our perspective on both:
    Disorganization and Procrastination.

    Procrastination is you, being sensitive to energy,
    and knowing when a doorway is opening, that would really
    be productive, and not being willing to hold the door open,
    before the energy is lined up.

    And we say, everything that we´ve known
    that you would call God,
    or good, or productive, procrastinates in JUST that way!

    Because we NEVER try to force something before the energy is aligned.
    (Story about Esther not having being able to make her do something,
    and she procrastinated for days, and SUDDENLY she got an impulse
    and achieved almost a miracle in the shortest of time...)
    ...because Esther was INSPIRED!
    And she did not act until the INSPIRATION led her!
    When you MOTIVATE yourself, that´s when the energy isn´t lined up!

    So, next time when you feel yourself inclined to call yourself
    a procrastinator,
    instead call yourself a sensor of energy-alignment,
    who´s not willing to do the hard work of acting-
    unless the energy is lined up!

    And in terms of organization- here is what we know about organization.
    Organization... ahhh you should see the organization, that is happening
    on this broader, nonphysical level, when you think about the power of LoA,
    and what is known, what is wanted, by ALL of you-
    and the stuff, that is in vibrational escrow-
    we can´t even begin to convey to you the perfection and the power
    of the organizational leverage-
    you talk about the Concierge in the sky!
    You talk about the real-estate-agency in the sky!
    You talk about the match-maker in the sky!

    Iow, ALL of this stuff is lined up for you! And so when you say
    "I need to get organized", we want you next time when you say "I need
    to get organized", which means- I need to take action!-
    -instead say:
    "I need to get myself into vibrational alignment
    with what feels good.
    I need to be kinder to me. I need to be softer with me.
    I need to be lighter with me. I need to get myself into a place,
    where I can receive the IMPULSE, that will take me
    to the most productive action."


    Abe




    LoA is working powerful with you, right now.
    Because- you are intense in the questions that you are asking.
    You really, really, really, really REALLY want to know this.

    And all of us really really really really REALLY want you to understand this!
    Offering you impulses-
    and as you feel US, along with the impulse-
    it will feel interesting.
    It will feel exhilarating. It will feel exciting.

    Reach for those feelings!
    And if you´r not feeling any of those feelings-
    than DON´T DO IT!!!


    Dallas 4-28-12



    About "not doing the work" and not being organized.


    Q: Okay, my question is: I’ve been really struggling with being very disorganized.
    I have a business and on my desk I’ve got a stack of business cards
    that should be entered into my database….


    Abe: Why?


    Q: So that I can keep track of these people and…


    Abe: Why?


    Q: …and market them….
    (Brief pause.) Why are they still there?


    Abe: Why do you need to do something different with them than you are doing?


    Q: Because I’m not reaching out to this group of people
    to stay in front of them, to keep myself marketed to them….


    Abe: Do you have plenty to do already?


    Q: Yes.


    Abe: Then why do you need more?
    (Laughter from audience.)


    Q: Well, I want to continue growing my business. And it’s not just that,
    I mean, you know, I’ve got papers piled up here and there,
    and I feel like the fact that I’m disorganized is holding me back.


    Abe: We agree with that, but when you hate organizing, then organizing will hold you back, too.


    Q: Uh-huh. Yes, I hate it.
    (Laughter.)


    Abe: And the Universe has a way of yielding to you irrespective of your organizational skills.
    In other words, the Universe doesn’t say, “When you get organized, we’ll yield to you.”
    (Laughter.)
    The Universe doesn’t say, “A clean desk is required before you get the good stuff.”
    The Universe says to you, “When you want it, we yield it to you,
    and if you’re in this place of allowing it, then you’re gonna let it in.”

    And so there are different styles -- there are those who need to be organized in order to stand it.
    In other words, clutter just makes them crazy.
    Well, we would encourage them to get organized because they need it for alignment.
    But if organizing is as frustrating as you say it is, and if you’re making that stack work,
    it is our suspicion that you could get your hands pretty quickly on anything on your desk
    if it really mattered to you.

    If it really mattered, you could find it reasonably quickly.
    In other words, we think it is more of a time saver to just find it when you need it —
    the Universe will help you -
    than for you to spend all that time trying to get organized and maintain a lifestyle
    that you have not produced or that has never been important to you.


    Q: Mmm. Wow, that’s awesome. That’s powerful.
    (Laughter.)


    Abe: The only thing that is sticking for you is
    that you are beating up on yourself for not being organized,
    which is what is causing the resistance.
    But if you will say, “Ah, I’m like a mad scientist,” or,
    “I’m like a creative genius where the energy just flows through me,”
    -because you are that!

    You don’t have to be like someone else is in order to have your success.
    You’re having your success. And more is coming.


    Q: Okay. I was wondering if that might be tied in,
    ’cause I was also dealing with some financial issues, and my bank accounts are disorganized -
    - my personal account, my business account, money’s going back and forth between those two;
    my personal and business credit cards, you know, it’s like wherever I need the money from
    it’s being pulled here to go there and being pulled here to go there.

    Is that related to this -- I mean, is disorganization in this area causing me financial distress
    or are those just still not...


    Abe: Well, we think the disorganization that you have been practicing
    is sort of evident there, but we do not think one is the cause of the other.
    We think that the way you feel about organizing is the cause of all of them.
    But here is the thing that we really want you to hear: are you making it work?
    In other words, do you have a sense of where the money is?


    Q: I... not in a way that I could explain to the IRS.
    (Laughter.)
    But, yeah, I know where money is and which bank account has some in it
    at that moment and which one might need it later.


    Abe: Well, if you ever needed to explain it, all of the records are there.
    In other words, money in and money out is not a difficult thing to explain.
    Even when you spend something on your credit card, there is a record of it.
    And so at any point that any reconciliation is necessary, it is there for you.

    The reason that we’re playing with you here a little bit
    is because we want to soothe you into this place where you are no longer beating up on yourself
    for your organizational style.
    And we would call it a style, because it’s sort of the way that you are moving,
    and the reason that we are not wanting you to all of a sudden
    begin to try to tighten up on yourself and shape up and do things
    in a more regimented way, in the way that would please someone else,
    is because creative juices very often are inhibited.

    In other words, sometimes there is a greater sacrifice to creative flow
    when you get all organized, than when you just allow things to flow.

    So the question that we are putting to you is: do your organizational skills,
    particularly the ones that are relating to money, cause you trauma?
    In other words, are you bouncing checks? Are you getting late notices?
    Are you financially behind things as a result of what some would call "irresponsibility"?
    Or are you managing in your style?


    Q: Yes to both. I mean, it has caused me to end up bouncing a check
    or getting a late fee and things like that.
    And yeah, I think I’ve gotten to the point where that doesn’t bother me.


    Abe: Well, you see, this is hard for many to hear
    but when you get into this creative flow where you’re asking
    and the Universe is yielding, you reach this place where you don’t sweat the small stuff.
    And keeping track of what you did is a little bit of sweating the small stuff.

    Now, we know your government requires it of you to a certain degree,
    we know that there are records and reconciliations that are required,
    but we have to say to you: far, far, far more importance is put upon that
    than we would if we were standing in your physical shoes-
    because you spend your time doing things you do not want to do,
    get yourself out of sync with the flow -
    - when you get in the flow, so much avalanches in that,
    it becomes unimportant how it is managed.


    It’s sort of like saying, “I have more money than I have any sensible use for,
    so now I don’t have to keep such a close eye on my bank account.”
    So -- oh, there is so much disagreement in this room. It is great fun. (Laughter.)

    Esther balances her checkbook to the penny.
    She cannot bear it if it does not balance.
    She will stay up all night to find it if it is out of balance.
    And she feels uncomfortable while she is doing it, because she knows
    -with every fibre of her being, that it is a waste of her precious life experience.

    And yet she has this thing that says, “I must be able to account for all of this.”
    And what we would say to her is:
    if you will relax and allow, everything falls into place.


    Jerry read an article to her.
    A woman keeping her checking account for 16 years rounded everything up
    or down to the nearest dollar. If she wrote a check for $10.75, she entered $11.00.
    It was easier for her to add it in her head. And after 16 years of doing this,
    her husband found out about it and was appalled.
    And spent 6 months reconciling the accounts.
    And it was 72 cents difference.
    (Laughter.)


    And so what we are really saying to you is:
    find the place of ease and let your creative juices flow,
    and let everything else take care of itself.


    Q: I don’t even balance my, I don’t even keep track of my check book.
    I just have some sort of a guesstimate of what I think is available.


    Abe: The bank is keeping track.
    (Laughter.)


    Q: Right. That’s what I figure.


    Abe: And you can call them any time you want, and ask them how you’re doing.


    Q: Yes. Right.


    Abe: And you have an awareness of approximately what’s outstanding since you last called.
    We think you can figure it out close enough.


    Q: And that should be okay. And that’s not causing any problems,
    then, as far as money and things flowing to me? It’s just two different things.


    Abe: Your guilt about it causes problems. The situation itself doesn’t matter.


    Q: Okay.


    Abe: In other words, as you say, “I’m a bad person because I don’t make my bed,”
    then you better make your bed or get over thinking that you’re a bad person-
    because you don’t.


    Q:
    (Laughing, amazed) How did you know?
    (Laughter.)


    Abe: In other words, either make it or say it’s all right that you don’t,
    but don’t keep yourself in that tension place, you see. Yes.

    What we would do, if we were standing in your physical shoes,
    we would look for our own positive aspects. We would say,
    “I’m alive, I’m energetic, I’m enthusiastic about life. There is so much that I want to do.
    There are so many things that do attract me, there are so many things I’m interested in.
    And I’m taking a big bite out of life, and the things that matter do get my attention.
    Everything’s percolating along just right, and I’m becoming more and more expansive.

    And at any time that I want, if it’s really important,
    I can hire someone to deal with all of that stuff.” And just relax.


    Q: Awesome.


    Abe: There are those who get out and live life, and there are those
    who stay home and clean their house.
    (Laughter.)
    And there are those that call one virtuous and one whimsical and irresponsible.
    And there are those like us that call it your choice in the way you live your life.
    You get to choose. Nobody else.

    The only thing that matters is your alignment between you and You.
    That’s all, you see. So ease your own mind and bring yourself into alignment.

    If you really, really, really want things to be tidy,
    if you really, really want things to be reconciled and organized,
    then you’ve been launching rockets of desire and the Universe has been hearing that.
    And as you chill out and stop beating up on yourself
    and noticing how ‘irresponsible’ and disorganized you are,
    which is holding you in a pattern that is not letting the Universe yield to you
    what you need to get organized -

    - in other words, as long as you’re frustrated about not being organized,
    that means that frustration itself is the indicator that you’re holding yourself in a place
    where even though the Universe is trying to yield the solution to you,
    you can’t get it, you see.

    So that’s why we’re saying make it a non-issue. Say it doesn’t matter.
    De-activate that and everything that you need or want,
    if you really want it, will flow easily to you.

    So later on, after you’ve really chilled out about this,
    and you have someone keeping your house and
    you have someone keeping your books, then you can say to us,
    “Well, Abraham, I guess it did matter because
    when I relaxed all of that came to me.”

    But if -- five years from now, after you’ve chilled out
    and you’re happier than you’ve ever been, and you still don’t have anyone
    keeping your house and keeping your books —
    then you can say, “Well, I guess I really didn’t want that because it didn’t happen.”

    Because if you want it and you relax, it will happen. That’s big.
    No matter what it is -- if you really want it and if you get out of the way of it, it will happen.
    It must be. It is law. It can be no other way.
    It’s the way this Universe is established, you see.

    We did not find you confusing. We found you easy to read.
    We found the question within you clear. Do you feel the power of our answer?
    We’re coming forth in response to the clarity of your desire.
    You’re clear.
    (Laughter.)
    You’re just confused, because you think
    you’re supposed to want what others want you to want.

    They say, “Cleanliness is next to godliness.”
    (Laughter.) And we say,
    think of this random Universe where everything is possible,
    and understand that the organizational skills belong to Law of Attraction.
    And if you will relax and allow LOA to do the organization, the managing,
    then you can spend your time doing the things that please you
    and that make things happen for you. Yes.


    So next time someone asks you, how you’re doing on your checkbook,
    say, “Law of Attraction is managing my financial affairs.”
    (Laughter.)
    “I have a financial manager.” “Oh, really! Is he good?”
    “The best. God-like.”
    (Laughter.)



    from the collections:

    Abe on taking ACTION

    Doubt and Procrastination


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    Thanks much, HitC! I sincerely appreciate the link.

    Quote Originally Posted by Hands in the Clay View Post
    Find the "Clearing Clutter for Clarity" Process, number 14 in AAIIG (which is why we keep repeating that it reeeeeeeeeeeeeally helps to read the books). They invented it for just this issue.
    http://www.abeforum.com/showthread.php?24564-Process-14-)-Clearing-Clutter-for-Clarity
    Last edited by WallieGirl; 1 Week Ago at 07:36 AM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WellBeing View Post
    In addition to HitC's reply, can you see how you're jumping into action without attending to your own resistance (the resistance about your clutter, about your organization, about how it keeps happening, about how you can or can't get a handle on this and other things, about..., about..., about...)?
    Yes, I can see it now. I know exactly what you mean. And I do that with other issues, as well.

    Quote Originally Posted by WellBeing View Post
    So you're trying to overcome your own resistance through action and you're seeing the difficulty in that, which is why you're describing that as "struggle." That's what "struggle" is: applying action to make up for our lack of vibrational alignment.
    Makes perfect sense!

    Quote Originally Posted by WellBeing View Post
    So, how can you soothe your thoughts about your "clutter"? What thoughts can you tell yourself about your clutter which still seem true to you yet which feel better?
    Ummm…that’s a tough one. I spend so much time beating myself up for having the clutter, and trying to get the willingness to clear the clutter, that I don’t stop to think about soothing thoughts I can tell myself. How about:

    “My clutter is serving a purpose. I don’t know what it is yet, but it’s okay. And it’s not going to go away until I make friends with it. So I might as well accept it the way it is and let it be!”

    Tears came to my eyes as I checked the responses to my thread and saw everyone’s posts. I couldn’t believe all the people who reached out to me and the wonderful feedback that was given. It was your post to TBD in the AAIIG thread, WB, that inspired me to start this thread. Thank you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WellBean View Post
    So to answer your question-- I quit having a struggle with clutter and disorganization when I quit calling it a struggle and a problem.
    Thanks much, WB. I appreciate your feedback!

    Thing is, I used to be very organized. I prided myself on it. I have been going to Clutterers Anonymous meetings for years. And I used to say to everyone, “Clutterers Anonymous worked the fastest for me than any other 12 step program I have ever been to.” Seriously! I would go to a meeting, come home, and feel inspired to declutter. It worked liked osmosis! And it lasted for years.

    Two years ago, a switch flipped. I couldn’t declutter my home or my office anymore. I don’t know what happened.

    I stopped practicing my two major addictions apx. 3 months ago….is clutter the last to go? Am I still hanging on to it because I need something to feel bad about? Because “success” is so very scary to me? (These are questions I ask myself).

    I do like the idea of making peace with my clutter. I’m not sure exactly how to do that, but I have made a beginning by starting this thread and reading everyone’s wonderful feedback. I started reading the feedback last night.

    This morning, I woke up about 3:00 a.m. and I felt inspired to clear out my “e-mail clutter”. I think that’s the kind of inspiration that you guys are talking about…it just comes naturally. That hasn’t happened to me in a long time. It felt great to “catch up”. It wasn’t something I planned on doing or that I had to work at. It felt great.

    Thank you again for your post.

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